This story originally published online at The Assembly.
On Sunday, former Apex Town Councilmember Scott Lassiter filed a lawsuit accusing House Speaker Tim Moore of carrying on a years-long affair with his wife, Jamie Lassiter, the director of the North Carolina Conference of Clerks of Superior Court.
The lawsuit is full of juicy allegations, from the salaciousโMoore โconvinced Mrs. Lassiter to engage in degrading sexual acts with him, including group sexual activityโโto potential abuses of power.
For example, Scott Lassiter says his wife wouldnโt end the affair โfor fear of retaliation,โ that Moore dangled political favors to smooth things over after being confronted about the relationship, that Moore had sex โwith others over whom he had power or influence,โ and that Moore conspired with an unknown person (pictured below) to place spy cameras on the Lassitersโ property.

Lots to unpack there. For now, though, letโs focus on the anachronisms under which Moore and about 200 other North Carolinians will likely be sued this year: alienation of affection and criminal conversation.
The former refers to a defendantโs โwrongful and malicious conductโโi.e., initiating an affairโthat disrupted a loving marital relationship. The latter has only two requirements: a couple was married, and one of them had sex with the defendant; the fact that the affair was consensual is irrelevant.
Both so-called heartbalm torts are drawn from the common-law โbelief that a husband owned his wife and was entitled to compensation for a lost property interest in her sexual fidelity,โ as H. Hunter Bruton explained in the Duke Law Journal in 2016, not laws passed by the General Assembly. And until 1897 and 1925, North Carolina women couldnโt bring alienation-of-affection and criminal conversation lawsuits, respectively; only aggrieved husbands could.
Almost every state allowed heartbalm torts 200 years ago. But since the 1930s, theyโve all but vanished. Mississippi, Hawaii, South Dakota, and Utah are the only other states that permit alienation-of-affection claims, while Hawaii, Kansas, and Maine are the only others that allow criminal conversation cases.
The NC Court of Appeals declared them unconstitutional in 1984, but the state Supreme Court overruled that decision months later. Verdicts resulting in windfalls for the cuckolded followed: $1 million in 1999, $1.4 million in 2004, $5.9 million in 2010, $30 million in 2014.
The tortsโ fans point out that while they were rooted in misogyny, women now bring about half of these lawsuits. They also argue that the lawsuits โdeter conduct that causes personal injury; they protect promises made during the marriage; and they help preserve the institution of marriage, which provides innumerable benefits to our society,โ Winston-Salem attorney G. Edgar Parker wrote in the North Carolina State Bar Journal in 2019.
Thereโs little evidence thatโs true. North Carolina has the countryโs 12th-highest divorce rate. Mississippi and Utah rank ninth and 11th, respectively. Few non-lawyers realize they can be sued for sleeping with a married person. More people are probably aware that judges can factor in adultery when calculating alimony, and that doesnโt seem to stop people from cheating.
Deterrence is beside the point, Court of Appeals Judge Darren Jackson argued last year.
โDisincentivizing people from choosing to engage in these relationships by treating a person as the property of another person is wrong and has no place in our world or society today,โ he wrote. โโฆ The law must not validate the idea that sex is something a person can owe another personโand by extension, something that a third person could possibly steal.โ
Jackson, a former Democratic lawmaker, was the lone dissenter in Beavers v. McMican, which focused on whether a man had provided enough evidence that the defendant was his former spouseโs lover for his lawsuit to go to trial. Jackson thought he hadnโt, but most of his 28-page dissentโnearly twice as long as the courtโs opinionโripped the โantiquatedโ torts that he believed โlack any adequate modern justification for existence.โ

Of course, unlike most heartbalm-tort defendants, Tim Moore presumably knew these lawsuits were possible before engaging in the alleged affair with Jamie Lassiter. Besides being a lawyer, heโs been in the General Assembly for 20 years, the last eight as speaker.
During that time, the NC Association of Women Attorneys, the Bar Associationโs Family Law Section, and other advocates lobbied the legislature to abolish alienation-of-affection and criminal conversation litigation. Mooreโs colleagues have repeatedly introduced legislation to do just thatโmost recently on April 17โto no avail. The bills have always died in committee.
If true, Scott Lassiterโs allegations that Moore has used his office to coerce sex are serious. But so is this: Lassiterโs effort to publicly humiliate his wifeโan act of petty vengeanceโis fully sanctioned by North Carolinaโs courts. On top of that, Lassiter believes he should be paid because his wife had sex with another manโand that belief, too, is state-sanctioned.
โOur Supreme Court deserves another opportunity to correct this wrong,โ Jackson wrote last year. Under state law, his dissent in Beavers forced the Supreme Court to hear the case. Oral arguments are scheduled for September 13.
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