When a straight guy asks out a lesbian Q: I could use some help in understanding proper etiquette when a heterosexual fellow asks me out, thinking that I’m a straight woman. What can I say? A: If you missed the wonderful cartoon on this subject in The New Yorker recently, let me repeat the caption, […]
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Help for drunken groping, closet cases and V-Day
Help for drunken groping? Q: Not too long ago, my girlfriend and I went to a posh dinner party hosted by my best friend, Georgia, also a lesbian, who, truth be told, has a problem with alcohol. Late in the evening, flush with excitement (and wine), Georgia put her hand up my girlfriend’s skirt. GF […]
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Holidays don’t have to be hell
Bring him home for the holidays? Q: My partner and I usually spend Christmas apart, opting instead to dine with our respective families. But this year I’d like to take him to my parents with me. They are clearly aware of him and typically include him in their Christmas cards. Yet, when I mentioned bringing […]
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Yes, Bi Guy, there is heterophobia
What’s a bi guy to do? Q: My favorite restaurants haven’t changed since I became bisexual and stopped seeing men exclusively, but eating at those places is a lot less fun. Gay guys around my neighborhood look at me funny when I’m out with a woman. Please don’t tell me moving away from my beloved […]
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Come out, come out, wherever you are
Editor’s Note: Sunday, Oct. 11, was National Coming Out Day. How do I come out at work (and keep my job)? Q: I’ve worked at a fairly conservative firm for years and have always brought opposite-sex “dates” to parties. But now that I am partnered with a wonderful woman, I’d like to come out, but […]
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Julia Boseman won’t back down
If you know anything about Julia Boseman, it’s that she’s North Carolina’s only out state senator. Or that she was the solitary holdout who voted no on the resolution honoring Sen. Jesse Helms after he died last year. Or that she recently won a nasty custody case with her ex-partner over rights to see her […]
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The straight-girl crush; cruising Facebook; HIV+ disclosure
Is my lesbian best friend coming on to me? Q: My best friend, who is a dyke, is always coming on to me even though she knows I’m straight. I feel like there’s a lot of tension, and I’m not sure what I should tell her. A: The mere fact that you’re asking this question […]
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Gay slang and lessons from Chaz Bono
What does Chaz Bono teach us about transgender folks? Q: I’ve been reading all these stories about Chaz, previously Chastity, Bono’s change of gender identity, and I see that Wikipedia already says Cher has “a son … who was born female.” Even as a gay person, I’m a bit confusedespecially about what’s the right pronoun […]
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Guess who’s coming to dinner
Army of lovers Q: It’s said that in the lesbian and gay community, “we are an army of lovers and ex-lovers.” How do you handle invites, seating arrangements, etc., when you know that so many of the guests are former lovers and you want to invite them all? A: Indeed, what they say is true. […]
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Let’s get it on
The oral sex dilemma Q: What do you do when a guy comes in your mouth? A: It’s an age-old predicament and one with no simple answer. Of course, it makes a big difference how well you know the guy. An anonymous trick is not the same as a boyfriend, who is not the same […]
